Revenge or Heal and Move on?
For those of you who are new to my newsletter, I want to back up so that we are all on the same page. Several newsletters ago, I wrote about the "7 poisons" which are complaining, criticism, condemning others, revenge, resentment, resistance and sarcasm. Clearly today we are going to talk about revenge and how forgiveness and detachment are much more serving to us all.
I remember when I was in 6th grade, my sister who is a year plus younger than me did something to me that really made me mad. Funny how I don't even remember what it was now. At that time, I had decided to let it go for the time being and get back at her when she was not expecting it. (Luckily lots has changed over the past 35 yrs or so.) A week later, I decided to get my revenge on her, and I changed her digital clock so that it was off by several hours. I was so proud of my "clever" move and it felt good. HOWEVER, as soon as she realized what I did, it no longer felt good. She decided to instantly get revenge on me and she took her clarinet while it was still in the case and she smashed my head open with it and I ended up in a fountain of blood getting stitches. Hmmm........so not worth it as I LOVE my brain cells! And so not worth it for her either because she had years of guilt over it.
Divorce is another situation which causes lots of people to jump to revenge. I know some people who have been emotionally "stuck" in their divorce for decades and honestly -- there is no reason for that and feeling bitterness, anger, and the need for revenge only hurt your own body, mind and soul. My divorce lawyer said that my divorce was the easiest divorce she had ever done, and she said she had never seen anything like it. Many people emailed me saying "he should buy you a house", "he should get you an animal sanctuary" and more......and I just had NO interest in fighting over anything. Reading other people's emails felt toxic to me. I just wanted a simple, peaceful divorce so that I could get on with my life, and that is what we created. I simply went into surrender and trust and it felt SO empowering and freeing. I may have lost my warm and fuzzy feelings for my ex, but I don't want revenge on him. That does not make me feel good. Instead, I actually offered to shift some of his emotions that were troublesome for him.
Being that I do healing work and I have lots of "tools," it was quite easy for me to let it all go, and move on. I am so excited about having my own space again, and I love my new home. The backyard feels like paradise to me and while I am still moving in, this is a glimpse of my healing room and I am SO excited for my new chapter in my life. Honestly -- I bet that I would not have landed where I am now had I chose the "revenge" method. Revenge lowers your frequency and effects your health and it keeps you stuck in the gutter like the Montagues and the Capulets which blocks many great things from coming your way. So why sign up for that?
I prefer to sign up for focusing on all the fabulous places that I am going! THAT sounds exciting and fun!
So if you are wanting revenge in any way which only takes away your power, take a deep breath and really think about what the higher road would be? You will feel SO much better, so much lighter and magical things (like your new awesome neighbors mowing your lawn for you) will start falling on your lap. Reclaim you power and focus on where YOU are going and let karma take care of the rest!